Saturday, November 05, 2005
CHILD SUPPORT: Hassle/Helpful?
With so many single parents today, one starts to think about child support. Most people would say "Yeah..........if you play, you should pay" or something to that effect. But is child support really worth all the hassle? I would be lying if I said getting money every month without have to work for it is always good. But with getting that money comes resposibilites and rights for the other parent. Not only does the person paying have rights, but as the custodial parent, you have the added pressure of making sure your child is provied for.
There are so many dead beat parents that it has become law that in order to get help, you must cooperate with the state's child support enforcement department. But if they are able to get money for your child, it actually will mess up any other help you may get. For example, if you have a child who receives SSI and you receive child support for this child, his SSI amount will go down depending on how much support is collected. How can that be right? These agencies count this as income, when in fact, unless it has been coming in regualr for a year or so, the parent has to worry about if the other party decides to be vidictive and stop it at anytime. How can you do a budget with that worry hanging over your head?
It's crazy. Parents have to take care of their children. That is a fact. It is also a fact that anybody can be a mother/father. It takes a special person to be a mommy/daddy. But the parent with custody should NOT have to cooperate with child support just to get help for their famliy. It isn't right. There are many reasons why a person may/may not be speaking to the other person. The children should not suffer because of a rule made up by people who do not know what is right for these families.
There are so many dead beat parents that it has become law that in order to get help, you must cooperate with the state's child support enforcement department. But if they are able to get money for your child, it actually will mess up any other help you may get. For example, if you have a child who receives SSI and you receive child support for this child, his SSI amount will go down depending on how much support is collected. How can that be right? These agencies count this as income, when in fact, unless it has been coming in regualr for a year or so, the parent has to worry about if the other party decides to be vidictive and stop it at anytime. How can you do a budget with that worry hanging over your head?
It's crazy. Parents have to take care of their children. That is a fact. It is also a fact that anybody can be a mother/father. It takes a special person to be a mommy/daddy. But the parent with custody should NOT have to cooperate with child support just to get help for their famliy. It isn't right. There are many reasons why a person may/may not be speaking to the other person. The children should not suffer because of a rule made up by people who do not know what is right for these families.
Wednesday, November 02, 2005
CHANGE
For some,change is very hard to accept. Others embrace it and welcome change. Change can come in many forms; some good, some bad. My family and my closest friends have decided to live under the same roof. To the "normal" person, this would be considered insane. How can 11 people with 11 different personalities possibly survive under the same roof? I can honestly say sometimes it is not easy. There are other times when you think why didn't we think of this before?
There are 11 people in a 3 bedroom home, 5 adults and 6 children ranging in ages from 14 to 5. Each of these people are different in how they do things. In the short run, the children think some many things are unfair. In the long run, these same kids are luckier than most children. They have the love of not just 2 adults, but all 5 of the adults would do anything for these kids.
These kids get the best of both world. They do not have to spend time in daycare. There is always a person home to see how their day was and to help when problems may arise. Trust me, problems will come. It seems easier to deal with these problems as a whole instead of just one or 2 people. This may not work, but the only reason it wouldn't is because the 11 people in this house didn't want it to work.
IN THE GRAND SCHEME OF THINGS, THIS WAS PROBABLY A BETTER DECISION MADE BY ALL ADULTS IN THIS UNUSUAL HOME.
There are 11 people in a 3 bedroom home, 5 adults and 6 children ranging in ages from 14 to 5. Each of these people are different in how they do things. In the short run, the children think some many things are unfair. In the long run, these same kids are luckier than most children. They have the love of not just 2 adults, but all 5 of the adults would do anything for these kids.
These kids get the best of both world. They do not have to spend time in daycare. There is always a person home to see how their day was and to help when problems may arise. Trust me, problems will come. It seems easier to deal with these problems as a whole instead of just one or 2 people. This may not work, but the only reason it wouldn't is because the 11 people in this house didn't want it to work.
IN THE GRAND SCHEME OF THINGS, THIS WAS PROBABLY A BETTER DECISION MADE BY ALL ADULTS IN THIS UNUSUAL HOME.
