Life Issues

With so many single parents today, one starts to think about child support. Most people would say "Yeah..........if you play, you should pay" or something to that effect. But is child support really worth all the hassle? I would be lying if I said getting money every month without have to work for it is always good. But with getting that money comes resposibilites and rights for the other parent. Not only does the person paying have rights, but as the custodial parent, you have the added pressure of making sure your child is provied for.

There are so many dead beat parents that it has become law that in order to get help, you must cooperate with the state's child support enforcement department. But if they are able to get money for your child, it actually will mess up any other help you may get. For example, if you have a child who receives SSI and you receive child support for this child, his SSI amount will go down depending on how much support is collected. How can that be right? These agencies count this as income, when in fact, unless it has been coming in regualr for a year or so, the parent has to worry about if the other party decides to be vidictive and stop it at anytime. How can you do a budget with that worry hanging over your head?

It's crazy. Parents have to take care of their children. That is a fact. It is also a fact that anybody can be a mother/father. It takes a special person to be a mommy/daddy. But the parent with custody should NOT have to cooperate with child support just to get help for their famliy. It isn't right. There are many reasons why a person may/may not be speaking to the other person. The children should not suffer because of a rule made up by people who do not know what is right for these families.